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February 24th, 2009
03:22 pm - I'm Back
It's been a long time since I've posted...
Back in June, my life went crazy and the wedding got called off. Don't worry, it got called back on, it just go postponed to June 2010.
It's taken me a long time to get back in the wedding frame of mind, but I"m getting there. A lot of things have been completely changed, instead of a Catholic wedding it the city, we're doing a non-demnominational outdoor wedding in the country. There have been bridal party changes as well, all in all, everything's different.
I'll get back to documenting the process soon, particularly as we get closer, I just wanted to update y'all and let you know that I will be back soon. I think the next thing I'm going to tackle is Bridesmaid dresses, which just might be the death of me.
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May 28th, 2008
01:23 pm - The Disney Factor
I blame Walt Disney.
I've decided that the obsession with the perfect fairytale wedding and being a princess for a day are totally his fault and can be blamed on the copious amounts of Disney movies we watch as small children.
This is the reason for the big wedding, for the princess dress and for the tiara. This is Disney's legacy to us all, big wedding with fairytale elements to satisfy our inner child who watched Cinderella or Beauty and the Beast a million times. As I've started planning my own wedding, complete with fairytale theme, I've come to this realization. I've never really grown past that five-year old girl.
Now, that's a scary thought.
Disney has even gotten in on the wedding buzz--there's a whole line of wedding related things. I have to admit I was tempted, but it's out of my price range. Still, I can't help imagining what it'd like to be Sleeping Beauty for a day... Also some of the accessories are gorgeous. Plus there'd be something awesome about having a Disney tiara, sort add another special element to the whole thing... Hmmm....
That little rant said, I'm totally a princess-type bride. I admit it, I want the fairytale. I grew up, fell in love, and now I want my wedding to signify the happily ever after. I'm totally doing the princess dress and the whole tiara thing. Oh, you bet I'm wearing a tiara, when will I ever get the chance again?
I'm a girly-girl and I've dreamed of this day all my life, of course I want it to be pretty and romantic, but I'm still saying it all began with Walt Disney... I totally watched The Little Mermaid too many times as a child. Just saying.
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March 18th, 2008
12:27 am - Dilemna #1- Who Giveth This Woman to This Man?
Its been a while since I posted, I've just been over-whelmed lately with school and with the wedding. Its sorta spiralling out of contro, on a lot of levels, and I'm not entirely sure how I feel about the whole process right now. Part of it is that there are factors with the wedding that make me really sad.
For example, one big aspect of the wedding is when the bride walks down the aisle on her father's arm before he gives her away to her new husband. Well, that's not an option for me, my dad was killed in a car accident in 2004, which means... Well, we have one bride without anyone to walk her down the aisle.
So, one of the biggest decisions I have to make is who'll give me away in my father's place. Which is hard, because as a little girl I always pictured walking down the aisle on my daddy's arm and dancing with him to "our" song and its hard to realize that it'll never, ever happen.
Its not like I don't have options, I'm lucky enough to have several people who would do the job if I asked, but... Its not the same. I'm sure that that'll be one of teh moments I cry, and not tears of joy, that moment before I walk down the aisle when it hits me that someone else is taking his place...
My father's best friend is an option. There's no one else who would represent my father in the same way, no one else who was closer to him, but... We're not that close anymore and somehow the thought of him askin him is almost too painful, because of the memories of my father. I'm not close to any of my uncles. My mom is an option, but... Well, it seems weird to me.
I honestly don't know, I guess only time will tell, right?
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February 2nd, 2008
12:55 am - Registry
My fiance and I went to a wedding show a couple weeks ago (they'll be a post on that whole experience soon) and they had a promotion that if you signed up for your registry then and there, you'd be entered in a contest plus get $50 in gift certificates. It was eariler than I'd planned to start a registry, but for stores that we did intend to register at eventually, so my fiance convinced me that we should, so...
We go in next week to actually start our official registry. So, I've spent the last few days making up a life of what I think we need/want, to save time. For example, am I really a fine china kind of person? Not really. Plus to make it worth it, we'd need 20 place settings, which is a lot (large immediate family). But good casual china, that's a definite. Same with matching wine glasses and all the various bar glasses.
Its too early to add linens and stuff (they'll be discontinued), so its mainly appliances. This is where I ahve to keep myself in check and try to think about what is practical. I've always wanted a Kitchen Aid stand mixer, so that's on the list, but what else do we really need?
Part of me finds registries tacky, making a wish list for people to get us presents, but people keep telling me its a nescessity, between showers and the wedding itself, people are going to want buy me presents and this guarantees we get things we need. Especially since we already live together and have some things (I have a great hand mixer, crock pot, and sewing machine that won't be upgraded). Plus, this can be used for Christmas/birthdays as well.
I will admit its kind of fun getting to create the ultimate wish list, but frustrating too, since we're having serious style clashes. Plus, we don't have a house yet, so we have to guess what our future house'll be like. Of course with colours it'll be easy, we can plan to paint it, but space issues plus we'll likely be either in our tiny apartment or living with his parents (a future post topic) until after the wedding, so space'll be premium. Means, we can't go crazy, which is a little too bad, but what can you do?
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January 30th, 2008
01:22 pm - Colours & Theme
One of the first aspects of the wedding we had to hammer out was our colour scheme. After all, a lot of decisions can't be made until the colours are decided, same with the theme or at least the general feel of the event.
I'm a pink girl. Always have been, always will be. Pink is my favourite colour and was non-negotiable as a wedding colour, because if it wasn't pink it wouldn't be me. My fiance understands this and accepts it (though it wouldn't be his first choice). Since I chose the main colour, he got to choose the accent colour: Silver. So, my wedding colours are now pink and silver.
Theme? I mean this is a general senese, since I'm not into a costume wedding or a wedding where every detail matches, but I do want the event to have an overall feel and that feel: Happily ever after, fairytale romance. I've always been the fairytale princess kinda girl and I think the wedding will reflect that in the overwell feel as well as some of the details such as the castle cake topper and the fact that I'll be wearing a tiara. I can't go all out with it, I think my fiance would kill me, and not every detail will reflect it, but... Again, it'll be there.
So, what does a pink and silver fairytale themed wedding consist of? Well, I'm still in the early stages of planning, but so far... Well, my flowers will be pink and white and mainly roses. Bridesmaid dresses will be pink (some of them are so thrilled about that--not). Groomsmen will wear either pink or silver vests (depending on what looks better), probably silver. The centerpieces will be in pink and silver, so will the decour of the hall. My cake will also be in those colours.
As for fairytale elements? Well, there's my cake topper--a castle that says "And they lived happily ever after", plus matching guest book. I'm aiming to have the centerpieces fit the theme, but still working on that, and my fiance promised to make me a castle card box. Plus, my invitations will have a fairytale element to them. Its not a lot, but its enough to make an impression, at least I hope so.
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January 29th, 2008
10:09 pm - Favours
So, we've started talking about the various details of the wedding. One of the the minor things that we've discussed is the favours. A few things were bounced around, personalized cookies, little bottles of maple syrup made in my hometown, or personalized shot glasses filled with M&Ms in our wedding colours (yes, they do that).
Immediately, that idea won. We're both drinkers, in fact most of the glasses we own are booze-related so shot glasses are very us. Both our names start with M, which makes the M&Ms so very cute, as everyone who hears the idea agrees, and to round it off, my late father collected shot glasses, so there's that personal element.
However, tonight we started talking about charitable donations instead of favours are very popular. Now, my fiance thinks we should do that instead, especially since we've both had cancer touch the lives of people we love. It is a much worthier idea, more meaningful and very personal, but... I like the idea of shot glasses!
I don't know. I think this is one we need to think about. We were both so into our favour idea and now, he wants to do something differnet. I know we have months and months ahead of us, but its still frustrating. I mean, I know I must sound selfish, making a donation to charity is a good idea, its a good cause, and probably money better spent, but I had gotten attached to the other idea.
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10:19 am - The Wedding Party
One of the first decisions we had to make once we got engaged was to pick our bridal party. These would be the people we considered close enough to share our big day and to offer us the love and support during the planning process. Also people who's faces we won't mind seeing in our photos for the rest of our lives. We decided quickly on five aside and I'm pretty happy with our choices...
The Bridesmaids
T, my maid of honour and life-time best friend. We met in 1985 and our friendship has been going strong ever since. I honestly never imagined anyone else standing up for me, its always been her. So far she seems willing to put up with my craziness and is pretty excited about this whole wedding thing. I see her as being my main support system.
M, a friend of mine from my high school, one of my best friends in fact--she actually introduced my fiance and I. We've been close a lot of years and I know she's excited about the wedding, though maybe not about my colour choices...
R & B, T's sisters. I've known them they're entire lives, they're the sisters I never had. I'm not sure how involved they'll be in the planning, because they're far away, but I know that they are eager to be invovled.
A, the only bridesmaid I don't know that well. She's an old friend of my fiance's, the best man's sister, and it means a lot to him that she's a part of the wedding.
The Groomsmen
A, the best man, and actually A's brother. He and my fiance grew up together, they'd known each other since they were kids and are practically family. I don't know him as well as I'd like, but he's a great guy.
D, a mutual friend of my fiance's and I, I think we've known him around the same amount of time, though he's a better friend of my fiance. They've known each other several years now.
L, also a mutual friend. He went to high school with my fiance, while I've known him almost six years now. A very dear friend to us both.
P, another mutual friend, also responsible for bringing my fiance and I together. Again, he's a close friend to us both and we're thrilled to have him stand up for us.
V, old college friend of my fiance's, I don't know him all that well. He seems like a nice guy, though.
The Kids
E, our flower girl, my fiance's niece. She'll be 6 at the time of the wedding and is a complete and utter doll. Right now, she's less than enthusiastic about participating, but we hope that'll chagne.
I, our ringbeaer, my cousin's son. He'll also be 6 at the time of the wedding and is absoloutely darling, though not the easiest child to mange, but we've always gotten along well.
Throughout the planning proccess, I'll use bold to refer to the men and italics to discuss the women. I'm sure I'll be talking about them frequently as the months pass, this was just a quick introduction so that you can get to know who all the major players are.
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January 28th, 2008
11:02 pm - Introduction
So, this is my first post. I figure, I'm a writer, I should write, so I'm going to document this whole crazy wedding experience...
I'll back up a bit, I'm a 24 year-old woman, living in Toronto, who recently became engaged. Less than a month in, I already find myself swept up in the whole wedding process. I find myself frequently thinking about colour schemes and flowers, what sort of menu want, and all the other details involved in planning a wedding.
Right now, our wedding date is set for October 3rd, 2009, but that's still tenative, and throughout the next 18 or so months I'll be writing in here about the various wedding decisions that I find occupying so many of my thoughts. It'll be a documentation of the whole crazy process, with some humour thrown in as I document the conflicts that happen when a nice Cake girl marries a nice Eastern European boy, especially when they come from very different families.
I'll start with our story... We met in 2001, but didn't make much of an impression on one another and didn't make an impression for another 4 years, despite being in each other's orbits due to mutual friends. Eventually that changed and we started spending more time together and in July 2006 we started dating. On Christmas Day 2007, he asked me to marry him, obviously I said yes.
Our wedding will be about average-sized, 200 or so guests (and yeah I haven't quite figured out how we're paying for this yet). 5 members on each side of the wedding party, plus the flower girl and ringbearer, so not too crazy. I always saw myself having the fairytale wedding, though of course fantasy and reality are very different things.
Current Location: Toronto
Current Mood: tired
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